Trust Issues... they've been there all the time.
When somebody hurts you and you're weak... You might generalize and think that everyone it's the same. Especially, If it's more than just "somebody" but "everybody" according to your thoughts...
It's self-sabotaging and it destroys your relationships because you're expecting that this actual person it's going to do exactly the same thing as the people that you used to know, but being realistic, you never put your trust on reliable people... why? Because you knew that friendships are hard, you have to build them like a house and take care of them, and because you knew that your friends were going to tell you things you didn't want to hear. You knew that when your friends told you to not date that guy and you ended up secretly dating him. Then, here it comes, heartbreak.
Your friends weren't trying to control you, just to show you that this person wasn't the best for you, and they were right. Afterward, you got angry because your friends made a comment about your appearance, and you had such low-self esteem at the moment that you just got angry and didn't want to take pictures with them anymore. They should have understood, right? When you're so self-conscious you don't even accept constructive critics. You had to get away from everyone to find yourself, and you did, but in your mind, they're still living bugs, and you have to kill them. Not everyone it's the same, not all men are jerks and not all girls are two-faced. You must stop expecting that your partner it's going to cheat on you, or leave you, you must stop thinking that all the other girls are better than you and so, you don't fit in their groups, because if you don't stop, you'll always be alone, and you'll never love completely.
Even YOU haven't been the best friend on some occasions and you know it, and probably there's someone that thinks that you weren't reliable at some point. However, we're all humans and we're not free of errors. You can love and trust even if that means that you're going to suffer. It's okay to hurt and let go, but it's also to find out that there still exist good people in the world.
I think you are really on point with this post. It's funny with our IT careers to generalize people relations as bugs and to create executables that only ourselves can re-compile.
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