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2.05.2019

Shoulds and Shouldnt's

I am going to make a list of things I BELIEVE shouldn't and should be done. If you find yourself asking: "should I do this?" Is this right? maybe there's something wrong with the situation, for instance:

Should you leave a man/woman control what you wear so you won't look like a slut?
No, he's an insecure asshole who thinks if you go out dressing like the beautiful woman you are you are going to find someone better than him, and if he is doing this there probably is someone better than him.

Should you leave this person to decide when you go out, with who and who should be your friends?
No, manipulative people are going to keep you away from people who are close to you so they can have full control of you and you can stay. They will lie and exaggerate using your weaknesses as a way of controlling you and you should recognize the red flags so you can get the fuck away from these types of people.

Should you wear what you feel beautiful with?
Yes, girl you should be looking at yourself in the mirror every day loving yourself and the incredible woman you are, you should be proud of everything you have accomplished no matter how small it seems to you, you are hardworking, you are smart, value yourself and get out of anyone who tries to be a manipulative asshole and cannot see you happy without him. 

Should you allow a man to not let you decide when you want to have sex and have to have whenever he wants?
Absolutely fucking no, you have the right to consent whether or not you want to have sex. He cannot force himself into you, even when you have sex with a man without really wanting you are not consenting inside of your own mind and it's gonna feel like shit giving your body to this man. If he truly loves you he will understand. 
On the other hand, if you're the person who stopped loving a partner long time ago and just can't stand having his intimate parts anymore, then get a divorce, stop entertaining a soul who's giving you  time, effort, and love, while you're out fucking someone else who's hotter but you're just a booty call to while you have a loving husband  or wife at home who would be torn into pieces the moment it finds out what you have been doing, men and women deserve respect. Nobody should be forced to have sex without consent but nobody should be cheated on, there are better people out there who can value a good husband/wife.

Should sex be an act made of two people who are consenting?
Yes! again nobody should be forced into sex, this is sexual abuse and in the worst case rape.

Should you let anyone call you a hoe?
No. they don't know you and why you act the way you do, and they are not perfect either and maybe they've done worst shit than you do.
Should you enjoy your sexuality?
Yes! Always being safe, make sure you know your partner and that he or she it's clean and taking care of itself. 
Should you stay with someone just because he gives you attention and fucks you right?
 No, there are better things, there is a compromise, commitment, there is meeting your future partner in life, and you can't do this if you keep wasting time with someone who couldn't give fewer shits about you. 

With all this said, I believe sometimes we need to learn how to use our common sense more and be nicer to people, it's not nice to be going around breaking hearts, calling people hoes, raping, sexually abusing, controlling and manipulating to the point that you destroy the person you're with and he or she doesn't love itself anymore. We NEED to be better.